What does God say about dealing with liars?
They don't care who they hurt or destroy (2 Peter 2:4-22; Jude 1:10). The doom of liars is spoken of in Revelation 21:8. The liar will forever be separated from a loving and holy God. The liar will have all eternity to regret the deception they refused to renounce as they hear their lies echo in their memory.
Biblical passages
One of the Ten Commandments is "thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour"; for this reason, lying is generally considered a sin in Christianity.
[8] But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
[9] Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, [10] Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
Forgive A Little Slip
It's okay to forgive when your partner makes a rare mistake and has never done something like it before; it is worth persevering, especially if they express regret. A small white lie might be forgiven, but a large, malicious lie might be too much. Reassess your relationship or seek counselling.
Lying can be cognitively depleting, it can increase the risk that people will be punished, it can threaten people's self-worth by preventing them from seeing themselves as “good” people, and it can generally erode trust in society.
Leviticus 19:11-12 KJV. Ye shall not steal, neither deal falsely, neither lie one to another. And ye shall not swear by my name falsely, neither shalt thou profane the name of thy God: I am the Lord.
Jesus says, “Satan is a liar and the father of lies” (John 8:44). All lies ultimately have their origin in him. Lies are his strategy for blinding the minds of each generation to the glory of Christ.
Liars Are Cowards:
Instead of admitting their shortcomings, their failures – their basic humanness – they will lie in order to cover it up. They're so busy keeping up with “the Joneses” that they destroy their closest relationships in the process. Liars need courage to overcome their lifestyle of deceit.
Proverb for the Day 21:6 — Lying Tongue, Fleeting Vapor, Deadly Snare! November 21, 2014. A fortune made by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor and a deadly snare. This wise saying offers a very strong warning to any and all who are dishonest in their dealings with others.
What God says about lying to your spouse?
Proverbs 19:9 (ESV) – A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will perish. Psalm 101:7 (ESV) – No one who practices deceit shall dwell in my house; no one who utters lies shall continue before my eyes.
Jesus said, “Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God” (John 3:3); “Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God” (John 3:5).

Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
Jesus states in Matthew 7:21-23: “Not everyone who says to Me, 'Lord, Lord,' shall enter the kingdom of Heaven”, yet there are some who teach salvation by “faith only”, i.e. as long as someone believes, he/she will be saved.
- Step 1: Be willing to acknowledge and admit that they've lied.
- Step 2: Figure out what led to your partner lying.
- Step 3: Decide whether or not you can trust them again—and how much it will take for you to do so.
- Step 4: Decide whether or not your relationship is worth it.
It's hard to trust people who consistently lie but it is important to try and identify the reasons why they lied. More often than not people who lie consistently are insecure and it arises out of fear.
People who lie repeatedly often have a desire to be in control. When the truth of a situation doesn't agree with such control, they produce a lie that does conform to the narrative they desire. Such people may also worry they won't be respected if the truth can leave them looking poorly.
Lying Changes the Brain
Nature Neuroscience reported a study of the amygdala, the part of the brain dealing with emotional responses. The researchers said the amygdala shows up less and less, as we lie more and more. Essentially, our guilt feelings tend to weaken and shrink.
They alter our reality, reframing it through the agenda of the person who doesn't want the truth to come out. Being lied to makes you feel insecure – your version of the truth is discredited. It also makes you feel unimportant – the person lying to you didn't value you enough to tell the truth.
Pathological lying is a symptom of various personality disorders, including antisocial, narcissistic, and histrionic personality disorders. Other conditions, such as borderline personality disorder, may also lead to frequent lies, but the lies themselves are not considered pathological.
Can liars ever change?
You can't always change the behavior of a liar, but you can change how you feel and react to them. Once you learn to change your emotions about a situation you begin to see a lot more options. If you are honest with the situation you will realize that your happiness is more important than their behavior anyways.
Whatever the reason, over time, pathological lying can become addictive. A habit. It feels more comfortable and more normal than telling the truth, to the point where many compulsive liars end up lying to themselves as well. Unfortunately, without therapy, compulsive lying can last a lifetime.
Cain lied to God in Genesis 4:9. Sarah lied to God in Genesis 18:15. Many others told lies, including the three lies Peter told, insisting he did not know Jesus.
Today they're common everywhere from Maori communities in New Zealand to office parks in Ohio. But in the ancient Middle East, the writers of the Hebrew Bible forbade tattooing. Per Leviticus 19:28, “You shall not make gashes in your flesh for the dead, or incise any marks on yourselves.”
Proverbs 20:19 – “He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, therefore do not associate with a gossip.” Proverbs 25:9-10 - “…don't reveal the secret of another, lest he who hears it reproach you, and the evil report about you not pass away.”
Psalm 12:2-6 – Everyone deceives and flatters and lies. There is no sincerity left. But the Lord will not deal gently with people who act like that; he will destroy those proud liars who say, “We will lie to our heart's content.
Deception occurs when you deceive, a word that comes from the Latin de- meaning "from" and capere, meaning "to take." When you deceive someone, the result may be taking — like items you don't really need from people willing to give them, believing they are helping you.
- Separate yourself from their behavior. One of the biggest problems we face when encountering a liar is usually that of personalization. ...
- Check and confirm your facts. ...
- Protect yourself. ...
- Ask for the story in reverse. ...
- Call them out. ...
- Hold on to your integrity. ...
- Always reflect. ...
- Accept who they are.
Jesus says, “Satan is a liar and the father of lies” (John 8:44). All lies ultimately have their origin in him. Lies are his strategy for blinding the minds of each generation to the glory of Christ.
Proverbs 19:9 (ESV) – A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will perish. Psalm 101:7 (ESV) – No one who practices deceit shall dwell in my house; no one who utters lies shall continue before my eyes.
How do you deal with liars?
- Don't lose your temper. As frustrating as it may be, it's important not to let your anger get the better of you when confronting a pathological liar. ...
- Expect denial. ...
- Remember that it's not about you. ...
- Be supportive. ...
- Don't engage them. ...
- Suggest medical help.
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4. Overemphasizing their trustworthiness: "To be honest."
- "To be honest"
- "To tell you the truth"
- "Believe me"
- "Let me be clear"
- "The fact is"
- A Change in Speech Patterns. One telltale sign someone may not be telling the whole truth is irregular speech. ...
- The Use of Non-Congruent Gestures. ...
- Not Saying Enough. ...
- Saying Too Much. ...
- An Unusual Rise or Fall in Vocal Tone. ...
- Direction of Their Eyes. ...
- Covering Their Mouth or Eyes. ...
- Excessive Fidgeting.
Psalm 12:2-6 – Everyone deceives and flatters and lies. There is no sincerity left. But the Lord will not deal gently with people who act like that; he will destroy those proud liars who say, “We will lie to our heart's content.
Deception occurs when you deceive, a word that comes from the Latin de- meaning "from" and capere, meaning "to take." When you deceive someone, the result may be taking — like items you don't really need from people willing to give them, believing they are helping you.
People lie in relationships to save face, avoid conflict, protect their egos, protect their image, and just to avoid hurting their partner's feelings, Durvasula says.
So John 8:44 says this: You are of your father the devil and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning and he does not stand in truth because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.
Even healthy couples who are very close and value trust and honesty tell these small lies. Small lies are key, according to DePaulo. Small lies don't make you a dishonest person; they make you a kind person who works hard to hold true to your values.
Pathological lying is a symptom of various personality disorders, including antisocial, narcissistic, and histrionic personality disorders. Other conditions, such as borderline personality disorder, may also lead to frequent lies, but the lies themselves are not considered pathological.
- Take note of any inconsistencies. If you suspect someone of lying, pay attention to any inconsistencies in their story. ...
- Throw them off by asking the unexpected. ...
- Pay close attention to their behavior. ...
- Look for microexpressions. ...
- Be suspicious of extra details.
How do you get the truth out of someone?
- Be reassuring. Let them know what they did is understandable. ...
- Minimize consequences. What will happen if they confess?
- The release. Explain that after divulging information, they will come out better—either be a better person, have a better outcome, or just feel relieved.
- Show agreeability.